No parent likes to think about their child being bullied or perhaps being a bully. However the fact is, almost 50% children are involved – either as an offender, victim, or witness. So, it is highly likely that you’ll have to deal with it at some or the other point. If your child is being bullied there are steps that you can follow to help them.

1. Support your child
It is vital to try and listen without getting judgmental. Put your own feelings aside, sit down and listen to what your child is telling you. Reflect what you have heard by ‘playing back’ to them what you hear. Once your child tells you what’s occurring at school, as much as it hurts to listen, be open and able to hear what he has to say. You can ask them how they want you to take things forward, so they don’t feel excluded from taking a decision on next steps.

2. Don’t Retaliate Against the Bully or His Family
As tempting as it might be to take matters into your own hands and retaliate against the bully or his family, don’t do it. This is where you have to set some examples for your child on how to solve the problem.
In some cases confronting the bully is your only option. Do not en-gage in either physical or verbal assaults. Simply stand up for yourself and tell the person to stop. Sometimes it is advisable to walk away. A bully usually wants reaction more than anything else. If possible, simply walk away. This steals away the thrill for the bully. Not being there to hear the threats or insults can likely stop the behaviour towards you.

3. Coach Your Child on the way to React
Bullies tend to choose on those who they can get a reaction from. They opt for youngsters who get upset and who take the teasing to heart. They additionally look for kids who won’t rise up for them-selves, or who they can overpower. It’s important to teach your child how to react.

4. Take Your Child’s Side
Constantly reaffirm the things he could do to handle the situation, and you'd see him doing them. Let him know that you are there to help him and are going to support him. He has to perceive that you don’t blame him and that you will support him.

5. Find Something Your Child Is Perfect at Doing
Help your child feel good about himself by finding the things he can do well. Select some activities he’s good at and reinforce it verbally. Get him involved in activities that are helpful for his self–esteem.

Signs That Your Child Is Being Bullied Not all kids will admit to their parents that they are being bullied. It is often embarrassing to them, and they are unsure how you will react.
Therefore, it is important that you look out for the following signs that your child is being bullied:
Not going to the bathroom at school. A lot of bullies attack in the bathroom, away from cameras and adults. Avoiding unattended activities and areas.
Getting upset after a phone conversation, text message or email or even social media posts.
Losing friends they previously had.
Being more isolated and skipping activities that were enjoyable earlier. Spending more time alone in their rooms.
Making negative statements about themselves and engaging in negative self-talk.